I’m a planner. I went to school to study Industrial Organizational Psychology and I’m an ESFJ personality type. I love to come up with ideas and love all the steps it takes to get to see the end result from all the time spent planning. I like knowing what to expect and being prepared for the unexpected. Don’t get me wrong, I love surprises and spontaneous moments [just ask Sam]… but a little heads up or preparation never hurt anyone 😉
This last weekend I had the pleasure of coordinating my dear friend Heather’s wedding. This was only my second time coordinating a wedding, but it wasn’t my first time behind the scenes. I’ve mentioned before that my dad is a pastor and many times my mom would also coordinate those weddings. I was a flower girl in a couple weddings when I was younger, a candle lighter, a bridesmaid in a few in more recent years, and helped my cousin serve her delicious cake a few summers ago in gorgeous Encinitas, California.
Like I said, I love weddings. I love helping the bride and groom have their special day come to life the way that they envisioned, and Heather and James’ wedding was no exception. Heather looked stunning, James cleans up nicely and there was so much love everywhere. Their love is so contagious. I feel so blessed to have been apart of this milestone in their lives. Of course, there were hiccups, but I think that the end result was perfect and so Heather and James.
A few of the important lessons I’ve learned so far:
1. Rehearsal is SO important. Not just for me as the coordinator, but for the wedding party and family too. Each bride and groom has an idea of what their wedding should or would like it to look like and rehearsal is a great place to knock out the kinks and communicate expectations for the day of.
2. Help is always helpful. It sounds simple, but if many people are each in charge of a small task and they know what the task is, in theory, nothing should be forgotten. Help distributes the responsibilities and allows for tasks to be done efficiently and done in a timely manner, which leaves more time for celebrating! Who doesn’t want that?! My job as a coordinator is to help make sure the day runs smoothly and put out any fires that come up along the way. If there is someone helping set up communion, checking the sound or putting together the centerpieces, then the day is set up for success or at least a little more stress-free. [So thankful for all the help at the Elgin wedding! I can’t say it enough]
3. As with everything, communication is key. You really can’t over communicate and timelines are always helpful. It’s important that everyone knows where they need to be and when they need to be there. This allows for less delays between pictures and another way to help the day run smoothly.
4. Flexibility is your friend. This is probably the biggest lesson I’ve learned and continue to learn. Having a plan B, C or D is always great, but being able to adapt to the situation at hand is even better. I’m not always the most flexible when it come to plans changing but the reality is, it’s just a day. [at least that’s what I keep telling myself 😉 ] I am so thankful for God’s help as a continue to learn this lesson in all aspects of my life, not just in relation to weddings.
I feel so honored and blessed to have been apart of the Elgin Wedding, so thankful for all the help during the week leading up to and on their special day. I’m loving this learning process and can’t wait for more, hopefully after it’s been my turn 😉
Happy one week of wedded bliss, Heather and James! Can’t wait to journey through the many more days, months, years, and decades to come. Love doing life with you.