Every year, about this time of year, the parties start to begin for all of your engaged friends leading up to their big event… wedding day. I love weddings. I love the flowers, admiring the decoration styles, seeing the cute flower girl and ring bearer walk down the aisle (they are always so amusing and precious), seeing how gorgeous the bride is, seeing the love all over the groom’s face as she walks down the aisle, and being able the celebrate and enjoy their new union as husband and wife.
My Dad is a pastor and growing up I got to go to plenty of weddings. So much joy, laughter, happiness, [insert your favorite adjective for joy and weddings]. As I’ve grown older my friends have started to get married and all of those events are just that much more special.
But this year, wedding season is a little different. One of my best friends and roommate is getting married in 8 days(!!!!) and I am coordinating her wedding AND my wedding is in 141 days(!!!!!) The excitement cannot be contained and as you can imagine wedding plans are coming out of our ears.
Sometimes all the planning can become overwhelming. Not only are you planning a wedding and not wanting to forget all the details, but you’re also blending two lives together. Two families. Two living habits. Two style preferences. A collection of various furniture. All of this adds up to the different parts of one life together. It can be stressful and at times daunting. So many opinions, advice, let downs when something doesn’t go as planned, excitements when things go better than expected and sometimes it doesn’t feel like there is enough time for it all. But I’ve been reminded lately of a very important word: remembrance.
I’ve said it before but I don’t want to forget this temporary season and when I look back I want to remember it with fondness, not an anxiety attack. A wedding is just a day, but it’s a very special day. Right now I care about all the little details, but when I return from my honeymoon all that will matter is the life we are building.
I want this to be a season of continued growth in our love and understanding of each other. Soon I will be a wife and we will be a team. We will establish our own little life in our family of two. In our little apartment.
But for now, I am a fiancé who loves my soon-to-be groom deeply. For now, I will pause from the planning at times and laugh, talk about the little (other) things happening in our lives, remember that our wedding day is just a day, and create unforgettable memories in the present.
Here’s to the beginning of Wedding Season 2015!